Flatmates fight over dishes

Flatmates share kitchens and blame. Dishes pile while everyone claims it is not their turn.

1. The problem

Shared flats run on silent chore deals that collapse weekly. Dishes tower while each flatmate swears the turn belongs elsewhere. Bathrooms disgust, trash overflows, and passive notes multiply on fridges. The hardest part is fairness without a manager. A task might take ten minutes or an hour, yet turns stay equal and wrong. That uncertainty makes it hard to ask, trade or enforce without poisoning the flat.

What people are saying

“Our flat fights about dishes every week and notes pile up. I need fair rotation with trades we all accept.”

2. What exists

Sweepy, Tody, OurHome and paper wheels divide household chores, while flatmates mostly argue in chats. Chore apps target families with kids and rewards. A wheel might rotate tasks, yet fairness by effort stays unmeasured. There is little help with effort-weighted rotation plus task trading built for adult sharers.

3. The solution

The solution could be a fairness-first wheel for adult flats. It could weight tasks by minutes and disgust factor, then rotate so effort balances monthly. It could allow tap-to-trade swaps with fairness auto-adjusted. Weekly scoreboards could stay friendly with streaks, never shame. The goal would be clean flats with zero passive notes.

FAQ

Common questions from people facing this problem.

How to split chores with roommates fairly?

Weight tasks by time and unpleasantness, then rotate so monthly effort matches.

How to get roommates to do chores?

Agree the system once in calm, then enforce the wheel instead of nagging.

What is the fairest chore rotation?

Effort-weighted rotation with visible scores beats strict equal turns.

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